Daryl's Full month celebration

Daryl change his clothes for the evening.

They are the in laws! My MIL, my brother MIL and my mum.

See the happy look on the ah ma face and you can guess how much happiness and joy this little bao bei bring.

Close up on Daryl.

The happy ah yee posing with her little nephew.

The happy mummy playing with her little baobei.

See my MIL was so happy and proud of her little grandson that she go set and blow her hair for his full month celebration.

Iron ladies of the Goh family.

Ah ma wearing the golden necklace and anklet bracelet on Daryl. Daryl full month gifts from his ah gong and ah ma.

Yawning Daryl with a stunned look ah ma.

Daryl's cry is powerful and loud.

See how small Daryl is and how big his rompers look.

We are family.

Daryl is wearing the rompers bought by his ah yee (Meina).

Finally, Daryl is One month old as per lunar calendar. We hold a celebration for him in our humble house in 2 session. Afternoon session for our friends and evening session for our relatives as the number of guests was large since Daryl is our 1st child and he is also the 1st grandchildren of both side family.

My parent come over rather early in the morning, to cut a little bit of Daryl hair (yi shi yi shi for the traditional customary), I keep the hair together with Daryl belly button that drop off (weeks back) in a red packet and keep it safely aside. Then we head back to my parent house to pray before we come back to my house and wait for guest to arrive.

We are too busy with our guest that we forget one important things - that is to take photo with our guests. Hahahaa..

visitors during my confinement

This are the little toys they bought for little Daryl. Of course there are some tonic for me too lor.

Before Daryl's full month, while we are home doing my confinement, we do have some visitors too.

They are Natalie, her hubby and her boy, Julinah and Shalin. These 3 ladies are my ex colleagues from UOB too, and yes, we know each other over 10 year ago, when we are then still so young and all of us except Shalin have already promoted to mother.

They come during one of the week day evening, if I remember correctly it should be a Thurday evening ba, coz I recall my mother was around too when they are arrived.

Natalie even comment and ask how come I wear short and sleveless when I am doing confinement, while my mum will remember her boy as a very nice boy who is generous with his hug.

Shawn's 31st Birthday with his new role as a Daddy

I always tell Shawn that Daryl is his 31st Birthday present as Daryl is born on 2nd May while his birthday fall on 20th May. I decided to get a cake to have a mini celebration for Shawn for his 31st birthday since he have just been 'promoted' to a Dad.

After my check up with TMC parentcraft with Daryl, my sister and Aloy, we pop by NTUC AMK Hub to get the cake so that we can have a mini celebration when Shawn is back from work even though I am still doing my confinement.

Jaundice

When we discharged on Sunday, Daryl's PD Dr Ong told us to bring sun Daryl under the sun as his jaundice is at managable level. But the day of discharge was overwhelming as my whole family beside my brother and sister in law who are overseas are at my house + my mother in law, as such, we did not sun Daryl. Then on Monday, I put him on my L-shaped sofa to sun him as I remember I was told not directly under the sun mah. Then in the afternoon, my mummy called and ask me did Daryl poo or pee, then we realised, he actually did not poo or pee after we discharge. Getting worried, I suggest to Shawn that we bring him to see Dr Ong. Shawn refused as he thought it is because we did not give Daryl water to drink thus he will not have any pee. However, after I insisted, we bring him to see Dr Ong who say that Daryl jaundice level have shoot up and have to be hospitalised to undergo phototherapy.

Although I know it is common for baby to have jaundice, but my emotion during that time was totally not me at all. I broke down in the clinic. Then I decide that I will stay in with Daryl, as I know I will not be able to sleep at home with Daryl still in hospital, so to avoid the disturbance of other kids as we will be staying in the kids ward and not the maternity ward, we choose 1 bedded room so that Daryl can also be under the therapy in the room. We stayed 4 days 3 night from 5th May to 9th May before Daryl was better and can be discharged.

During my stay there, in the night, my sister and her boyfriend, Aloy will come keep me company as they worried I will be scared or I will think too much lor, coz I will cried on and off especially when I see Daryl under the phototherapy crying. They will only leave after I fall asleep.

Then on 8th May, Shawn brought Daryl chinese name which was 'calculated and given' by the naming shi fu which he consulted and asked me to register the name the next day when we discharged. That night, Shawn and me have our first quarrel after Daryl was born. What happen was that my emotion get the better of me and I sort have "talk rudely" to my mother in law after she repeatly mention the chinese name she suggested for Daryl from the day she suggest till this very day. I guess, if my emotion was still me, I will not have reacted the way I did ba.

After we discharged on the 9th, we were told to continue to sun Daryl in the sun for few more days. However, the sun seem to be hiding behind the clouds or the sky just look dark and about the rain lor. Anyway, when we go for Daryl's check up again, we were glad that his jaundice was cleared.

Visitors on Day 2

My coglis cum friend from APL.

The happy yee po.

The happy grandma.

My first photo with Daryl. I am finally a mother too.

More people come to visit Daryl and me on the 2nd day, but mostly did not take photo. I do not remember the sequence or timing but roughly do remember who come over, but might miss out some coz my memory these days are rusty.

My sister long time friends since Secondary School come along, if my memory did not failed me, Yin Hwa, Xin Hui, Yuan Hua, and Yi Shan come, hope I did not left out any of them (Meina do correct me if I am wrong) in the afternoon.

Then my colleagues cum friend from APL come too, Mr Chan, Miss Chan and Miss Tham.....hahahaha....both Mr and Miss Chan dare not carry Daryl lor.

My good friend Lynn and her boyfriend Wei Boon also come to visit in the afternoon, and till today (4th Nov 2009) she still remember I was sitting on a float when they come.

Shawn's friend Guohui and his wife Dawn come along too in the evening I think. Our neighbour James and Jean come with little Issac also.

In the night, my more than 10 years ex colleagues from UOB aka my so call da jie Christine and her hubby come to visit me too. So nice of them especially we sort of lost touch for a while before we get back in touch before I got married. I still remember jie fu (Christine's hubby) still tease me if I still have another baby in me coz my tummy still look so big. Muahahahaa.

My close friend Grace was also around in the night and she joined in the chat with Christine and her hubby too. Then, we ask her to stay on even after Christine and her hubby left so that Shawn can send her home on his way home too.

One thing I remember very well is that I received alot of bottle chicken essence and bird nest and also a handful of useful gift for little Daryl.

Big Thanks to all!!

Visitors on Day 1

The happy close friends of Shawn.

The happy biao jiu.

The happy er bo.

The happy potential yee zhang to be.

The happy ah yee.

The happy Ah ma.

Of coz, the daddy was there thru out my 12 hours of my labour.

We have quite a number of visitors on Day 1 to see little Daryl. However, not all are captured in our photo.

My mother, sister and her boy Aloy are the first few to arrive and see Daryl. In fact, the moment I delivered and Shawn open the deliver ward door, they are already standing outside. They say they calculated the timing and come before we actually call and tell them Daryl have arrived. Hahahaa....see just how excited they are.

My mother in law and eldest brother in law came in the afternoon after Shawn and my mum they all went home to rest to prepare to come in the evening again. They left shortly, after they see Daryl in the baby room and visit me in my ward as I was too tired after the long labour hours.

In the evening, my mum, sister, Aloy, mother in law and 2nd brother in law come to visit. Then my best cousin Desmond, his wife Hsiao Hui and their little sweetpie Andrea come too. Later, Shawn close friends, Ben and Fukeng come to visit little Daryl as well.

Flashback - Birth of Daryl (Birth Story)

On 1st May, Shawn and me went back to my mum house to play mahjong. As since the night before, I was like having tummy pain machiam like I want to poo but can't poo out like that. So I still jokingly tell my mum that sacali I want to give birth liao. And when I take 5 to go toilet to poo and I took so long, Shawn was send out to check if I actually poo-ing or giving birth (WAHAHAHA). After few round of mahjong (don't recall how many rounds), we stop and went for tim sum dinner at geylang (wan tao sek). As the road opposite to the tim sum stall is the durian stall, my dear sister have a craving for durian (don't know whether is me who is pregnant or her lor ;-p), so she bought 3 box of durian and give me a box.

So after sending my family back to hougang, we went home to catch our favourite drama series and have our dessert - Durian. I was still thinking of whether to take a cab to work the next day since I have to bring my office laptop back or just take my usual bus. Also was thinking if suddenly I go into labour then I don't need to go back office the next day. I know I cannot start my leave on 2nd May as I know Kenneth need me to do some slides for his travel before I pop.
Then we went to bed after 12 midnite. However, I was unable to fall asleep and was daydreaming that if I shall go into labour pain shortly, I want and must have mac fillet o fish before i go deliver in hospital. Then suddenly, I feel a pain from my back to my front lower tummy like menses cramp. As I worry that it might be false alarm again, so i get up slowly and go toilet to try to poo without disturbing Shawn. Then to my surprise, i saw blood in the toilet bowl, which mean I have show and contraction at the same time. So without further delay, I wake Shawn up before I wash up. I was still rather calm, so I quickly pack up those small small items to bring to hospital and grab Shawn jacket before we leave the house.
As I worry that the delivery hours will be long, I insist to have a fillet o fish meal on the way to TMC. Then I sms Celeste to help me inform my reporting boss Kia Liang (as I think he should be asleep liao) that I will start my maternity leave the next day since I am in labour pain liao. Celeste can still tell me to eat 2 fillet o fish coz I need alot of strength when I told her what I am eating.

When I reach TMC, the nurse told me my cervix is only 1.5cm open which means it will be a long wait and so she ask if I am in great pain or else I can go home first and come back later. But as the contraction pain is abit too much for me bear + I really see no point in going home then come back again, so I insist to stay.

Same time, I insist on NO EPIDURAL. So I take an injection (pethidine) which is suppose to ease the pain for upto 6 hrs (but I don't think it help at all) and rely on the gas. When my cervix is 5cm open, the gas seem to be of no use, so I ask if i can take another injection however as the time different is only 4 hrs, it was not allow. So I request for them to stronger the gas dosage, which the nurse did stronger it by abit after my insistence. After that I was high on gas. Dr Sim come in the morning and she burst my waterbag to expedite the labour process. However, my contraction and cervic opening seem to slow down after awhile so she ask if I would like to put on drip which will also expedite the labour process but will be more painful. But as the pain was already unbearable, I dare not take the drip.

Then when my cervix was 8cm open, and I was put on drip (water only) as my gynae realise tat i am abit dehydrated but the contraction pain become unbearable, as baby head resting was on my rectum. Which make me keep having the urge to push. But I was told I cant push first, so the feeling was damn terrible and the pain was super duper horrible and I keep screaming that I can't take it liao and also somehow,I have uncontrollablely push. So when my cervic was open about 9plus cm, they allow me to push.

Not sure if I was too drain out of energy after 12 hours of labour pain or what, somehow, I was unable to push out my baby. So Dr Sim (stand in gynae as Dr Beh was out of town) say she will use forcep to help me and thus she have perform episiotomy so that she can insert the forcep in. However, I stil have difficulties in pushing out my baby. Then when Dr Sim told me to push harder, if not she have to emergency c sec me as baby heartbeat is getting no good. This worry me alot, so I start to push with all my might and finally, my boy arrive after 12 noon on 2nd May.

My first view of my baby was when he was place above me cover in blood and I heard his first cry. Then he was take away to clean up and for check up by Paediatric Dr Ong.
Later I was told that my baby was abit big for me and also his face is facing up and not the normal face down thus more difficult to deliver.

After my boy was deliver, I was like too tired to notice anyting liao. Although I can still feel the pain when Dr Sim injected below there to numb it before she sew up. Then I fell asleep. The next moment I wake up, together with my boy, I was push to my ward. Then I also realised, my mum and sister have long arrived while I was in labour.

Flashback - Birth of Daryl (photo of Daryl)

Wash up and return to mummy in the ward!

Glad to be born and is looking around!

Can u see the little grin on my face?

I am moving abit....my weight should be 3.085kg.

Just 'out' and was briefly clean up and the nurse is putting a tab on me....

Flashback - Birth of Daryl (photo of mummy)

Admitted and awaiting labour at 2th May 2008, 1 am plus. See just how BIG my tummy is....labour pain still not so intense so can smile at the camera! muahahaha